“RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIKE BUBBLES – THEY’RE FRAGILE“
I am a counselor by choice, a principal and professor by profession, a published author and a sensitive human being. I think most would rate me as a strong personality.
Yet a few nights ago, a client’s pain broke me! And I realized my fragility. I felt my heart would collapse, sleep eluded me, dejection and grief left me drenched in my own pain.
While I tried to be a lifeline to many students, colleagues, clients, friends and many parents during the lockdown phase, I had neglected my own cleansing process; I heard her sobs of being ridiculed and disowned by her close relationships who had passed judgements on her actions, rejected and blamed her to the brink of her questioning her self -worth bringing it crashing to the floor and completely denied emphathizing with her situation.
I let her stay with me and allowed her pain to mingle with mine. I wondered if it was an emotional break down, post trauma of being in extended lockdown or merely caretaker burnout. Well, whatever it was, because she was hurt, I was also simply unable to detach from her hurt. I wonder if it sounds familiar to any of you?
And then I decided to lean on my Universe. For strength. For support. For being able to help her rise from the ashes, I had to elevate myself. The friends, counselors and the psychiatrists are the finest community that stand by you, amid the worst crisis situation because they still retain their sensitivity. When confronted with another human being’s pain, they do not rake or compare your pain with theirs. They all in their own comforting ways remind you of your own inner resilience, nudging you to ask for professional help and remind you that it’s not incorrect to want to live a life with dignity on one’s own terms.
Guys, Covid is here to stay, but wallowing in misery alone can be changed by opting for coping and healing mechanisms. So, repair, restore and refresh yourselves and never be afraid or ashamed to express that you are in pain and ask for help. Eventually, the perpetrators who inflict pain do not get away in the long run.